Recently, well it has actually been over a year now, I lost a friendship. Though it is only now do I realise it is truly gone.
We had been friends for over 20 years, we met each other at university and ended up living together for a while. We had our 21st birthday together, I went to her wedding and we shared a part of our lives.
She called me one evening at a time (the witching hour – all mothers know this hour well) when I was completely stressed-out due to organising our 2 small children and dinner for us and our 4 staying visitors. I apologised profusely for being stressed and not being able to talk and so we had a short conversation. After that she disconnected from me. I called her and contacted her a few times but was met with a distant reply.
And without any more communication… she decided not to have anything more to do with me. She had cut me off.
For me it was heartbreaking. I felt I had offended her in someway.
For over a year I wondered and stewed on what I had done. What did I do that was so bad for her to simply blank me from her life. I replayed that last phone call in my head trying to figure out what I had said that was so offensive, so wrong. I cried and I grieved over the loss of our friendship.
I blamed myself for a long time and thought that I should try and make amends. I felt I should call her or email her to have closure on this friendship. I blamed myself for the end of our friendship.
Then after a year of this I realised something…
I was not to blame.
I did nothing wrong.
I went over the feelings of
…if she actually was my true friend she would have wanted to work it out or talk about what was bothering her. But she didn’t.
… if she really knew me as a friend, she would know that I would have not done anything intentially to offend or hurt her.
After coming to these conclusions I then saw another view…
I then chose to view this issue from a bigger perspective… to look at what was actually going on energetically for me.
I had changed … and I was shedding.
Even though the ending of the friendship was out of my hands, even though it was not my decision to end this relationship… it needed to end.
I needed to shed.
And soon after this realisation, another shedding occurred with yet another 20yr friendship.
When we need to move on… when we need to shed, it will happen, sometimes with words and sometimes without.
Symbolically I see the process of shedding like a balloon which needs to cut loose its sandbags in order to raise itself to new heights. And that balloon is filled with Light, Love, possibilities and potential.
For me, my friend’s life style was not healthy for me, I had other priorities and responsibilities and I no longer needed to mask myself. Whether I knew this at the time or not; it needed to happen. It happened because it was
for the highest good of all. I see now that my friend and I, as energy beings,were not resonating with each other. We had different vibrations and we were going along paths that may not ever cross. And who knows maybe for her this was also true, her perception of me may have been similar.
I am witnessing shedding for lots of people at the moment. Maybe it’s as a result of being in the year of the Snake and is symbolic of this creature’s qualities to shed their skin. Though I do know it is occurring to many people around me, especially with longterm friendships and also within business and places.
When we move into being our true, authentic selves we start resonating and shining our Light out for all to see. It becomes brighter. Though some people may not like to see this. Sometimes the Light shines on those parts of the other person that they may not necessarily want to look at, things they do not want to see just yet in their lives. So either you will start to step away or they will.
I know now that I could not have stayed in that friendship for too much longer anyway. Me? a year on from our ‘break up’, am a different person. I am more empowered, more confident and sit well in my beliefs and the way I see the world….
I want to soar!
Are you shedding?
are you soaring as a result?
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much Love and Light
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