‘Be your Authentic Self.’
Have you heard this expression?
Dr Phil even has a definition of what this means…
‘The authentic self is the you that can be found at your absolute core. It is the part of you not defined by your job, function or role. It is the composite of all your skills, talents and wisdom. It is all of the things that are uniquely yours and need expression, rather than what you believe you are supposed to be and do.’
And I have been thinking, as a Feng Shui consultant and Energetic Healing practitioner, I am hopefully being my authentic self but wondering whether because of my profession do people see me differently?
…. meaning… someone who has some sort of higher spiritual knowledge?
….Someone removed from the community or ‘normal’ social status?
I can remember going to a reader who told me I must not work as a practitioner on friends or colleagues as we would be ‘too close’ and that sometimes the client will see me as someone they hold in high spiritual esteem, and that I must separate the ‘friend/family member me’ from the ‘healing practitioner me’… so I can go out and have fun without people judging my spirituality,’…this is what she said.
Now for me, I had not long started in my profession and was having a few boundary issues in my business/career/client life and
I believed in this piece of advice…
and it was saying to me :-
with clients I must be serene, zen, all-knowing, professional (of course), super human, the best and most amazing energetic healing practitioner with no sense of humour and live in a mountain retreat meditating for years and know the meaning of Life, the Universe and Everything…(42?)
In fact I found it to be a huge burden and responsibility… it meant that I had to be perfect, fully aware and living a conscious life all the time, that I don’t really lead a ‘normal’ life and can’t possibly know how the client would be feeling…
Which also means it distances me from my clients who may feel in comparison, to be unaware, fumbling around, unfocused, having no idea that they can take charge of their own lives…
And it also meant that the only time I was ‘allowed’ to be ‘normal’ = having a sense of humour, having fun, making mistakes – was when I was with my family and friends…and… when I was with my family and friends I wasn’t allowed to bring my spiritual healing side.
So….NO integration of myself in my family life OR my career.
Can you see why I am questioning this advice?
I am integrating my ‘Authentic Self’ into both my career and family/friend life.
Mainly because I don’t like playing games and I need to be me!
How exhausting would it be trying to be someone different?
So here goes…. I am about to demythitise (so not a word!) what you may believe I am … as an Energetic Healing Practitioner, Feng Shui Consultant and Meditation Facilitator…*drum roll*
It may come as a bit of a surprise to you… but I am NOT a Guru… that’s right I repeat .. NOT a Guru..!*chuckle
and I DON’T believe that I am! And have no aspirations to be.
I cannot read your mind, I don’t know what is going to happen to you next Friday at 10am, I cannot see into your body and tell you your medical history, I am not a miracle worker, I am not a mystic, I don’t meditate on mountains (though it would be nice) and I don’t heal you!
I swear at people in traffic, I argue with my spouse, I kill cockroaches and redback spiders, I have yelled at my kids (well only one of them… the other one just blows raspberries and falls over a lot), I get scared, I have had some esteem issues with the change of my body from my pregnancies, my house is generally messy, I can’t always find the time to meditate, we have easy dinners sometimes and I make mistakes.
I also take time to process my crap, yes I also have crap to process…,
Sometimes I lash out but then take the time to sit and think… mmmm I wonder where that is coming from? Why is this pattern emerging again? I am just like you, trying to do my best! I like to become aware of my energy and my feelings so I can be more conscious, so I will not come from those knee jerk reactions in the future but come from a place of Love. We are all searching for that inner Peace and so I believe that incorporating energy work and spirituality can assist me…
So hopefully you are starting to see the authentic me and not a contrived and distorted view of what an Energetic Healing Practitioner is.
Now I love my profession and I love other practitioners in my profession too… as long as they are also being authentic… and even if they aren’t I guess I still love them…though some practitioners like to think of themselves as special and possessing a gift that only very few people have the privilege of being given. Or have reached a spiritual ranking that seems to feel like they are ‘higher consciously evolved than you’.
There are also some clients who like to have someone who will ‘heal them’ so they don’t have to take any responsibility or do not have the inner confidence to follow their own truth and so will follow someone elses.
What I like to do as a practitioner is to make YOU aware of YOUR OWN energy and provide YOU with the tools to bring about healing for yourself.
I am a facilitator of your healing. I do believe in miracles, though they don’t happen that often (that’s why they are called miracles) (though it would be nice to witness one, once in a while :))
Sometimes in a session you can have mystical experiences though this does not occur often…. most of the time I supoort you to work with your own energy in the consult!
I assist you in becoming aware of your body and your responses and where you are holding the energy and how you can clear it or heal it. There maybe times where you will just be receiving the energy in silence for the complete session, but this is usually if you are very ill or exhausted and need some support energy….
the other times though, you are fully engaged in your own healing for your own balance and your own harmony…
Sometimes I receive messages, I can sense your energy and see what is occuring in your energy body, I may see spirits and I may have an understanding of some of the underlying patterns that are occuring for you…
and a big but…
this is not some amazing gift that only few people have!
You too are an energy being, you too sense energy and have the ability to ‘see’ it and ‘feel’ it.
You are NOT seperate from it as you ARE energy. And sometimes some people just need reminding.
Also in this process I will not only be my Authentic Self but will also be reminding you of yours and honouring your Authentic Self!
Your Authentic Self needs to be recognised in this process too!
Please don’t hand over your core, your being, your own knowingness to someone else…how empowering is it when you honour this within you?
How empowering is it when you recognise the innate ability within you to heal yourself?
Honour your Authentic self ….!
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