A Great Alternative to the Christmas Grouchfest
Oh. my. lord. The next morning was a living nightmare.
The boys constantly fought.
Pushing, kicking, blaming and the sound of the wingeing from both of them was too much.
They cried at the drop of a hat and demanded me or my partner to get this, get that.
‘I’m hungry. I want something to drink. I can’t find my helmets visor (smallest lego piece in the world).’
I knew we may have been in for some unsettledness but it was kinda out of control.
On top of that I was snappy, dismissive and intolerant of them.
I was also not present, head in the clouds or in Facebook trying to escape from this awful episode of cranky, tired and unsettled kids.
I felt uncaring and just plain wanted them to shut up.
‘What a horrible parent I am!’ – I thought.
Then the guilt set in and I felt neglectful and like I was squishing every part of joy out of them.
And I started to become aware that I was also certainly not calm or dealing with it very well.
And I wanted to change the dynamic.
I wanted harmony.
OK so let’s rewind to the day before…
Christmas parties and get togethers!
3 to be exact!
2 kids parties and 1 adult get together in one day, from 10am til 5.30pm.
Supermum was going to do it all!
Why not? I could handle it. I could juggle it all.
It was a great day. The kids had a ball. The only thing was that my adult catch up turned into a kids swim with me not really connecting, but hey I saw adults.
Like, real ones.
And I had a few adult conversations and then BAM of we flew to the next party.
When we finished for the day we were all tired and exhausted but pretty happy with ourselves. We had happy experiences where ever we went and no fights or arguments. It was lovely.
Kids were tired and went to bed early and I lounged, chatted to Harry and went off to snooze land.
But the next morning. THE morning – went to shit.
I knew I was going to be in for some grumpiness from the day before, but really? This much?
Then I realised how much we had actually done and how many people we came into contact with and different spaces, excitement and energies we all mingled and mixed with that day.
I needed to clear their energy and fast. Mine also.
I find the Australian Bush Flower Essences really fast acting for kids and very effective.
So I quickly grabbed 3 I knew they needed to clear this energy.
One to clear other people’s energy, one to repair and smooth any frazzled auric energy and another to help heal relationships or interactions with others.
And I squirted one child in the mouth with them and the other, I dropped the essences on his head.
And I took the same.
10 minutes tops and the energy shifted.
They settled, became calm and started to play together, normally.
And I also felt clearer, more supportive, patient and understanding.
I was now present.
We then all grabbed the ball and went out the back and played!
And had fun together!
Busy periods like Christmas or end of year celebration,s your energy can become frazzled or scrambled and it doesn’t have to be from any traumatic event, argument or shock. Your energy can become frazzled from plain busy-ness and being with lots of different people and their energies.
We all mingle… our energies, our thoughts and feelings and sometimes, especially Christmas time, you may need a little support to settle this energy and come back to centre.
Your kids especially will pick up on this energy. And Flower Essences can really help.
I also believe that you, as a mum, can feel empowered when you have tools to help your kids come back to centre. You personally are then better able to be calm, present and connected with your kids.
You can feel like you are able to support them, become more patient and nurture them in a different way.
And then, thats when you are able to get on with the important things. Play. Fun. Connection. And getting back to your biz and family life.
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