You’ve just witnessed your best friend go through a hard time and you want to help her in anyway you can. You have been seeing a fantastic healing practitioner and think this may be a great way to help support your friend.
Or it’s Mother’s day and is the perfect chance to introduce a healing modality to your mum, which you’ve wanted her to try for aaaages, and so you get her a gift certificate for a healing session.
Or maybe your uncle has not been able to sell his home after his divorce and so you want to help him in some way, as you can see he is struggling financially. And so you buy him a home healing, to see if that can shift something in order to get a quick sale.
Do any of these scenarios sound familiar?
I have been on both sides of this, more so as the practitioner, but also as a receiver of a gift certificate.
And even though you may have the best intentions for your friend or relative, this may not be the best course of action for them.
And so here’s 3 Good Reasons NOT to buy a Gift Voucher of Healing for a friend.
1.They are not ready. Even though, from where you sit, you can see that something like a healing session may totally be useful for your friend. You can see how they may need to delve into the heartache they carry from their divorce, or the grief that they can’t seem to manage, but they simply, may not be ready to go there.
And if they aren’t ready, then the interaction with the practitioner maybe awkward and the person generally puts up a wall of protection. When this happens, and if they are really good at it, the practitioner has nothing to work with. This happened with one particular client of mine, it didn’t matter how I tried to work with them, nothing was happening. It was like working with a plank of wood.
This is not ideal, for the client or the practitioner. And if, for some reason, the practitioner ‘pushes’ thinking that it’s their job to help this person and tries to continue to poke and prod someone who really doesn’t want to be there, then this could open the client up into a process where they consciously didn’t want to go. This is not healthy or particularly useful, in fact, it could do the reverse of what was intended.
After 20 minutes struggling to find something to work with, with my client, in the end I had to stop and say something. I said sensitively, “you really don’t want to be here, do you?”, this thankfully opened up a conversation and everything seemed to ease after this. They were happy to talk openly, though not receive any further ‘healing techniques’.
2.They are not engaged. Sometimes, people just want someone to fix their problem and don’t see that they are an integral part of the healing process. And this usually comes with not fully understanding the healing process or by people who have not had any previous healing sessions or experience. And that is totally fine and this is where the practitioner needs to step in and help the client understand what their commitment should look like and what to expect. But sometimes, even though this has been communicated, this doesn’t always seem to be heard, especially if they have not chosen the healing process for themselves.
And from my experience usually happens when I’m working on peoples homes and sites. I believe it’s because the person perceives a building as something that is external from them and because its not a human, they have no connection to it. And so believe they don’t need to engage. This can’t be more further from the truth, of course. Engagement is the key to any healing process, whether it’s for yourself or your home or business site. And when this occurs it can become difficult to encourage engagement where clients do not take on board recommendations or do any of the suggestions that have come up in the healing sessions. This tends to lead to an empty ending to the process and it can be frustrating for both the client and the practitioner.
3.The practitioner may not be a good fit. Your friend, you so lovingly bought a certificate for, may just plainly, dislike the practitioner. Simple. There doesn’t need to be a reason for it, but they just may not resonate with them and it just doesn’t work out.
Another key to a successful healing session is being able to feel comfortable and open with the practitioner. Most healing occurs when there’s trust between yourself and the person you are working with. If your friend has not chosen the practitioner themselves, then it may simply not be a good fit. Your friend needs to feel comfortable with being vulnerable, and if they distrust or dislike a practitioner for some reason e.g. they may look similar to a person who bullied them at school, they may not be willing to open up and proceed with any form of healing.
So here’s some things to consider before you go ahead and buy that gift certificate of healing for a loved one.
- Have they specifically asked or hinted that this is something that they want to explore?
- Have they been keen on a particular healing practitioner or modality?
- Have you asked them whether they want a healing session?
- Do you feel they understand what a healing session is and what to expect?
- Are they ready?
- Get them involved in choosing who they want to see.
- Don’t make it a complete surprise, out of the blue, thing.
The paradox.
Yes, on some level, whoever they go to, whether they engage or not, whether they get poked and prodded by a practitioner, whether they are a good fit or not, whether they hate the experience or love it, whether they put up a wall of protection, whether they actually even book in or not…. it’s all part of the process of the healing as well, and that on some level there will be some experience that was needed for your friend, yourself and the practitioner, to help them learn and expand their awareness.
In all experiences there will be a paradox.
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