11 Feng Shui Tips to reduce Anger in the Home to live a Peaceful Life.
Day #222 of #365 Days of Feng Shui
Put on your cranky pants, snappy, losing your shit, in a foul mood, having a tanty or just plain got the shits, …..
Every one has anger or feels frustrated at times.
I personally find anger a difficult emotion to understand.
On one hand, anger is a natural response to a situation, especially in the event of injustice or if you are physically threatened.
Though anger can also be seen as unhealthy and must not be shown. And so people can start to suppress anger which may lead to depression, chronic fatigue or pain in the body.
Also anger can quickly turn into a destructive pattern; turning into rage and violence.
There are so many different forms of anger depending on how a person has learnt to cope or manage this emotion, e.g. yelling, rage, violence or bullying behaviour. But can also take on more subtle forms like passive aggression and manipulation.
According to Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) anger is related to the Wood Element which governs the Liver and Gallbladder Qi. When the liver becomes stagnant, stuck or excessive this causes emotions like anger, frustration, resentment and aggression.
When this imbalance is not addressed it causes a loop of energy where the stuck energy also creates more anger. And it can start to not only affect the Liver but also impact the Heart and Stomach causing cardiac issues and digestive complaints.
And that’s not all, there are also environmental factors (meaning things outside of yourself or ‘with out you’) that can contribute to your excessive Liver Qi or stagnation which can cause an increase in feeling angry for you or with in your family dynamics.
So let’s take a look at few things that you can do to reduce or address feelings of anger, frustrations or resentment within your home or family dynamics.
11 Feng Shui Tips to reduce Anger in the Home to live a Peaceful Life.
1) Cutting back on Wood. If you live in a home that is made of timber or weatherboard, you have polished wooden floorboards, wood panelling, wooden furniture and love to burn a wood fire. Geez your Wood element is on overload. Add some earthen ware pots, boulders, crystals and stones. By using items like these from the Earth element, can help drain the Wood energy, helping to balance your space.
2) Balance with colours. Colour can have huge impact on your emotional self. Colour is deeply personal and how you respond to a colour is vitality important to how you can create a peaceful space for you and your family. Using colours of the Earth element can help to bring balance to an angry household e.g. yellow for joy, orange for confidence or browns and beiges to help to ground you. Shades of blue are helpful, though according to the Chinese 5 Element theory, blue can also feed into anger in some circumstances. Try and stay away from bright reds and greens as this could negatively impact an already angry atmosphere.
3) Address Geopathic stress. Geopathic stress has the ability to increase challenging behaviours and in some circumstances can lead to sporadic or erratic behaviour. If you are constantly working and sleeping on top of Geopathic stress then this will increase the tension within your physical, mental and emotionally body, making it harder for you to address challenges etc Seeking a Geomancer to heal or balance your site, can help you create a more harmonious and fertile foundation to live from. Click here for my Geomancy services >>
4) Reduce your Violence intake. It’s really helpful to reduce any violence from T.V. programmes, music or video games. It’s even beneficial to cut back on watching the news as this type of exposure can feed into any anger that may already be present.
5) Feng Shui audit. A professional Feng Shui audit can uncover the specific type of energy that is coming into your home and what energy you are sleeping in, which impacts your emotional health. Some homes may actually have an energetic pattern which supports arguments and this can be neutralised and harmonised through a Feng Shui evaluation and recommendations. Click here for Feng Shui services >>
6) Australian Bush Flower essences By spraying bush flower remedies around your space, they can help to start to address any anger within the home and also can allow you to use your own skills to stop it from escalating. There are specific essences that help you to address anger. e.g. Dagger Hakea (anger and snappiness towards close friends and family members), Mountain Devil (hatred and jealousy) and Illawarra Flame Tree (resentment).
7) Food. Eating lots of cooked greens and root vegetables will support healthy Liver function. Though try and reduce raw and cold food as much as possible and cut out stimulants such as coffee, sugar and alcohol which disrupts the flow and weakens Liver Qi. Increasing essential fatty acids helps the Liver to become flexible and introducing Turmeric to your dishes will assist Liver’s function. Also seeing a naturopath or TCM is recommended to help heal your Liver.
8) Create a chill out space. When you feel frustration or anger coming up you may want to take some time out. Creating a space or chill out room for members of your family to have a bit of calm time is a great idea. Fill the space with books, a zen garden, stress relieving tools or pencils for art and drawing.
9) Become active. Spending lots of time with the family outdoors and connecting with Mother Earth is a perfect way of discharging any built up Wood energy. Take your shoes off, walk on the ground, along a beach or pull out your picnic blanket and have a lie on the earth. Also exercise such as Tai Chi, Qi Gong and Yoga can help to encourage the smooth flow of Liver Qi.
10) Aromatherapy Oils. Introducing essential oils into the family home can have great calming effect on all the members. Lavender, Bergamot, Chamomile, Petitgrain and Patchouli are some oils that help to calm down your senses and assist you to deal with anger that’s rising.
11) Sleep early. Anyone who is sleep deprived or goes to bed late regularly, will know how cranky you can get from not having enough sleep. Getting into a routine of going to bed around 9.30 – 10pm at night with not only help with replenishing your energy, but you are also providing the best environment for your liver to detox and regenerate on a daily basis.
REMEMBER:- If your anger or anger of a family member is becoming destructive or violent it is always recommended to seek professional advice from trained anger management counsellor, seek refuge yourself or start working with TCM practitioner, acupuncturist or other natural health care professional, GP or Psychologist. Whatever is best for your circumstances and your health and safety.
Sacred Space Sessions will also provide a safe place in which to start addressing the core challenges that may be creating your anger in the first place. Click here for more info >>
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